Growing Home Plant Sale!

Finally after months of tender loving care, my babies are ready to find happy gardens to thrive in! I started sowing in January in my little greenhouse, potted them up and slowly hardened them off in the garden. Now I have hundreds of Organic, Biodynamically growth, planted by the moon, sung to by the sun, baby plants to share with my people! ( That’s You!)

Early Acre Cabbage, Siberian Kale, Ruby Red Chard, Serano Peppers and more!

Here is a list of the babies who are ready to go!

Plant List
Cherokee Purple
Sun Gold
Principe Borghese

Quart -$5
Aura Sweet

Long Purple

Bronze Beauty

Greens- 2inch pots $3 each
Fordhook Giant
Ruby Red
Early Golden Acres


Salmon Rose
Unicorn Mix
Cinderella Peach

Large Cracker Jack


And more!

Because I am hosting at my home I have created a sign up to visit the plant sale by app. It is this weekend only so jump on a grab a spot if you would like some of these babies.

Nasturiums, Borage, Zinnias oh my!
So proud of these little guys! My baby tomatoes have grow knee high! Hardened off and ready to plant in the ground!

10 Years of Seeds & Stones and now Growing Home

It is spring time! The shade of green deepens by the day and my garden is the happiest it will be all year! Beofre i dive into planting this weekend I pause for thought and ask myself “What is happening in my garden?  What will grow this year, what will perish? What will I tend and what will I compost?” Just like a family, the garden is always there, ever rooted, but never the same. Every season new things come in strong while others fade away. When I look around this morning, I see peonies popping up that I thought had surely died. I wonder why our lilacs only give a few blooms when they are almost 8 feet tall, and though this garden seems so crowded, I see all the empty spots where I can still sneak in some more flowers, give some more water and continue to create and cultivate! 

Last year was a year of great inward and outward growth, yet I found myself desperately parched by the end of the season. I had endevored to farm a tired, hot piece of land that needed deep care and deep healing. It was my pandemic hail mary, I wanted to bring life when so much had been lost as a way to give and grow and generate good. It became a place where women & children gathered with me to sing and sow and feel safe for just a few hours a week. It was healing ground, giving and getting curative connection. It gave flowers and food, more than I had ever had land, time and capacity to grow in my life!! On the physical plan, it was a success, but deep down it had revealed something deeper that needed tending.

All this growth had ripened a hard truth, how deep that healing that is needed really is. No amount of attention & water could undo years of neglect on this land, on all land. We as a people have fallen out of synce with the earth, with generative relationships with the land, and with practices that are reciprocal. The healing of that land could not be done in one season, or by one person, or a even few people no matter how optimistic or good intentioned. Healing work is the work of many, maybe all of us, to reorient ourselves and reconnect with right relationship to our mother, the earth, ourselves and our future. To reclaim our work not only as stewards, guardians and devotees to the land, but rekindle practices that actually generate and nourish life as part of our daily way. I was happy with my harvest baskets full, but heavy with the burden that the hill ahead to health of our world is steep to climb.

This winter took me deep, down underground into the soil of my soul, reckoning and reorienting to my path ahead. It became clear, that my work has always been of a mother, a teacher and a community member. No amount of produce from my garden would feed the world, and not only could my body not keep up with those efforts, but my heart couldn’t either. It was time to go back, to re-enter the world, with seeds and soil clasped in my fists. I had to do what I have always done, to teach my people to grow.

As this spring emerged, and the seeds started to sprout, so did a new website, a short film, a plant sale and new opportunities to return to my original instructions, and to Grow Home. This season I will focus on growing more medicine and flowers and, of course, food on the tiny plot of land where we live. I will reinvest my energy here to really make it bloom to its greatest capacity instead of stretching out to farm dry land without enough resources and only 2 scheduled water releases this summer!! I have to really evaluate what is the best use of my resources and what is the best use of this valleys precious water. Though I will miss that spacious abundance, and those long, lovely rows of beautiful rows of cabbages and marigolds, that land does not belong and so we are not in that marriage of stewardship and commitment for the long haul. I have learned my sweat and seeds are in it for the long haul, for generations ahead of me, to heal what generations behind have not and still crossing my fingers that someday I will find a piece of land I can live on, plant on pray, on sing on, and steward for a good long while. Seeds are patient and so am I.

This season of my life I will also step more into helping others seeking to know their land, to learn how to bring what they steward to life while it brings them life. To help people Re-member their relationship to their Growing Home.

After 20 years of being a garden teacher and consultant I finally have an official place to share my offerings and myself as a garden guide. As with all things with me, it is a work in progress. But I finally feel like in this next season of my life, while the children play, I will be able to bring my work, offerings, and garden whisperings to the world a little more each day.

So my friends, “Seeds and Stones” has become “Growing Home”. That is what we’ve been doing all along, and I know now more than ever that this work of tending and supporting others to grow is my calling in life. Please continue to follow me on this growing journey and jump over to see the new site and signup for the Growing Home Newsletter. May you flourish wherever you grow home. 

The Soulful Art of Sorting Seeds

I have been sorting a lot over here lately; trying to evaluate, release and upgrade. During this process I have been shifting through this little blog of mine, a chronicle of the past ten years of my life as Seeds & Stones. I have come across some gems in these archives and this essay about sorting seeds is perfect for today, as, like every year in late winter, I am doing the same sacred act of sorting my seeds. This week we also did our seed blessing ceremony, because not only does every garden start with a seed, but first a prayer.

Seed Blessing Ceremony for the Seeds of 2021

The Soulful Art of Sorting Seeds- By Erin O’Neill of Seeds & Stones

The seeds were saved in September. The edible parts had been harvested and the flowers left to dry on their stalks in the garden, forgotten completely since mid summer. When they dried up into seed heads by autumn, they were cut off at the stem and put into brown paper sacks and hung to dry in the shade and abandoned again. Between saucing and canning, homeschooling, cooking and cleaning and everything else that requires my attention in a day, the seed hung forgotten for a long, long time, gathering dust and fading from my mind.

Home Saved Carrot Seeds

Until today that is, a sunny quiet February day.  I took all those sacks down dusted them off, and starting sorting my seeds.  It would have been great job for a fall day in the garden, a lot less mess and any strays would have gone right into the ground, but alas…I have time and mental space to clean seed in February and from now on I am sticking to it. 

Lettuce Seeds

As is often true when we follow our own natural rhythms & internal guidance, turns out February is the perfect time for sorting seed.  We are all doing it right now,  whether metaphorically or actually, we are taking stock, going through, preserving the viable releasing the no longer useful.  As my face was soaking up the greenhouse sun, my hands rubbed and windowed, separating the seed from the chaff, it all felt so right, so deep, so old.  I thought of all the human hands that have carefully, meticulously, consciously saved seed for well over 10,000 years.  Without that attention & care we would not being eating any of the food we do today, as all of our crops are domesticated, stewarded, & cherished by our ancestors.  Seeds were sown into the hems of shirts and carried across seas in migrations.  Seeds were stashed and stored like gold, and in many cultures, seeds were never sold, only given.  As the task of sorting, shifting and selecting the sacred seeds took over my hands, my mind wandered to the work the seed was doing on me.  The practice, the focus, the attention, the patience.  As I was working the seed, the seed was working on me.   I am not the first one to have been worked on in this way.  Every farmer, gardener, grower of any sort has each been through this mill, nature forming us into our true selves.  The work and rhythm of forces beyond our comprehension, creating us, every human through every breath.  

These mysteries may be lost on our conscious minds, but they are still hard at work on our souls.  It may have begun with Psyche, the Greek word of course for soul.  Psyche was a mortal woman who became a goddess in her quest for true love.  In her attempt to prove her love to her husband, her mother-in-law Aphrodite (the beauty), gave her four seemingly impossible tasks, the first of which was to sort a huge pile of mixed up seeds by the next morning.  To overcome her fear of the impossible and trust in her own capacity the ants come to help her sort.  In wanting to share this symbolic soul story with you I found  Whitney Johnson & her blog Dare to Dream who speaks so beautifully about the potent symbols of sorting seeds.

“Sifting through possibilities and establishing personal priorities in the face of conflicting feelings and competing loyalties requires a sorting of the seeds. Sometimes we need to sleep on the problem letting the industrious collective of ants – our subconscious – work things out. As we learn to trust our intuition, clarity will emerge.

Psyche goes on to attain the golden fleece from the rams of the sun, a dangerous and wild breed….it is the reeds in the water that help her this time, guiding her to collect the golden strands that have caught in them, after the rams have fallen asleep.  “Psyche’s ability to acquire the golden fleece without being crushed is a metaphor for a every woman’s task of gaining power without losing her innate sense of connectedness and compassion.

She attains water from a treacherous stream aided by the eagle. “Psyche’s ability to fill the crystal flask is symbolic of her learning how to set a goal, avoid the pitfalls that will inevitably come, and to then achieve her goal.

Her last task is to go the underworld and retrieve beauty ointment from Persephone, being told she will have to say no to people in need along the way.

To set a goal and pursue it in the face of requests for help from others is especially difficult for women whose lives are focused on care giving. In completing the task of saying no, three times, Psyche exercises choice. Many women allow themselves to be imposed on and diverted as they set about their goals. They cannot accomplish what they set out to do, or to determine their life course until they learn to say no.

Psyche succeeds in all her tasks, she marries her true love Cupid, and is made a goddess by Aphrodite, but the most exciting part of this tale to me is that she cultivates her intuition, her trust, her power…she is transformed by her heroic quest while holding steadfast to her feminine nature.

Seeds and Stones: Apache Red Corn, Garnet, Carnelian, Red Pearl Hopi Watermelon, Papago Tepary Bean

There are so many layers and lessons in this story but for me it reminds me that seed sorting, selecting and saving has been the work of women across cultures and time.  This tiny repetitive work, much like knitting, weaving, beading, sewing.. has been the work of women; done with children in their laps, others to talk to, and often alone to process the busyness of our minds and ease into the pace of our hearts. These calming, repetitive practices ground us into our bodies and gets us out of our heads, as any woman knows, a much needed reprieve.  Rapunzel did her spinning, Cinderella did her scrubbing, Psyche did her sorting… most princesses have to do it sooner or later, and so must we.

My third child gathering wild flower seeds in winter

The decisions were made. The dust, sticks and pebbles were removed by the winnowing of my patient hands and given back to the garden from where they came. The most viable seed was placed neatly into jars, labeled, and tucked away for warmer days. The intentions were set, the course charted. I decided in February what I would plant in June. All I have to do now is take those jars down and follow through, placing every tender seed into the dark earth like a dew drop, revisiting Psyche’s journey into consciousness with each seed I sow.

Winter Wonder Pop-up Shop!

Exciting news!! The Santa Fe Waldorf School will be opening up the grades building this and next weekend for a COVID safe Winter Wonder pop up shop!

They will be selling natural art supplies, beeswax modeling clay, crayons and candles, beautiful children’s books, felted toys and wool supplies, Waldorf dolls, handmade pocket dolls by Waldorf senior Indie Russell and I will be selling my plant dyed play silks and jewelry!!

Waxed braided linen with antique Indian goddess pendants and this silver pendants


Sunday December 13th 10-3 pm &

Saturday and Sunday December 19th & 20th 10-3pm

Where: Santa Fe Waldorf School- lower grades building( follow signs)

26 Puesta del Sol

Turquoise and braided waxed linen

This will be a very safe and peaceful shopping experience and a wonderful way to support the Waldorf School and little local makers like me.

Plant dyed play silks make wonderful gift wrap and go on to beautify you imaginative toy collection

Put on a mask and come see us!!

Cota Orange, Chamisa yellow, Cochineal pink, Sage brush green – just a few examples of the amazing colors you can get from high desert plants!

Hello Out there

Hello out there, can you hear me? It seems I have fallen silent again, or rather the outside world has fallen more silent to my over burdened ears…. sure has been noisy in here… 3 kids in 950 sq feet for 9 months on end has been… well a lot! I have been joking with friends, “Oh you think 9 months is a long time, we have been doing this for 9 years!!” So yes, I have reached a new level of exhaustion… but I must admit, I do it to myself! Like taking on farming as a hobby this year, like ‘yeah more work is fun!!’ But all sarcasm aside, if you know me at all you know not only is growing fun, it is what I MUST do!

This year I got a good healthy dose of it! If you follow me on Instagram, you can see all our farm bounty day by day, family farm days and so much beauty we got to share. We grew ourselves over 1,000lbs of food, flowers, seeds and soil and I donated much of it to mothers in need in our community. It was hard work, it was humbling work, it was really the work I was made for and made to share! But now that the snow lies on all those little cover crop seeds I can finally sneak back out into the studio at night, instead of passing out at sundown, and open up all my treasure boxes and see what my nimble fingers are called to create.

Normally around this time of year you would be getting a big Holiday sale announcement from me, but alas, there will be no Holiday shows this year. I have been working hard to get up to date with technology and get myself back on the interweb after many months away from the computer for the most part, but this requires focus, quiet and well time… all of which I have very little of right now… did I mention the tiny house, big family. Well, I will share that I have not been entirely incapable. I made a few videos on crafting and created a Seeds and Stones Studio Utube Channel for my Parent & Child Class buddies…. I listed my Plant Dyed Silk Play Scarves on my Etsy shop, and now my big task is photographing and listing each of my one-of-a kind jewelry pieces in time for Holiday sales. Wish me luck!

But what I am doing more of anything this month is slowing down, bringing magic to my little big family and praying for the quiet come in!

I hope you are all well and wish you all the best and truly hope we stay connected heart to heart until we meet face to face again!

So you are gonna give homeschooling a try…

I have three children who I have been guiding through life and learning since they got here.  Homeschooling you could call it, or life schooling, or love schooling, we are all learning as we go and most of the time we don’t really call it anything but the way things are!  I am not an expert and frankly will never be because that is just not how life is with ever growing, changing things!  However, I have googled Waldorf Homeschooling more times in the past ten years than you could ever imagine and have learned a lot and brought a lot to my family & community along the way.   My investigations have gone outward and inward, but more than anything the spirit of the work is meeting the child before you with open eyes and open heart, as we should hope to meet the whole world.

IMG_7139So, some of you know this about me and have asked for tips, guidance and curriculum… so I will attempt to share a few things I enjoy and mind you there are tons more out there I haven’t explored, but one parent can only take in so much.

But before I give you a dozen rabbit holes to get lost in tonight…


here is a little secret…

the fundamental principle of Waldorf education is that the curriculum comes through the teacher, a human being of knowledge, skill, beauty, kindness, a human being worthy of example…. so now, for better or worse, that is you.  Being your authentic self, clear & true, is really what your child is most needing, after all, they did choose you as their first teacher!  Homeschooling and most schooling is based on the relationship between the student and the teacher so keeping that as the highest priority can really help when you are scrambling for resources, look within, “Hey Google, who am I?”

27C7481D-8F6C-4F15-AD9D-9DB87B95EB6AMy advice, don’t over think it, don’t over spend on resources that will give you one more thing to do, don’t worry about downloading information into your child’s brain… just do you and let your children enjoy you as their chosen guide.  Trust if you stay open to using the world as your classroom your children will learn more than they ever could inside four walls.  Being on the journey together to meet each other and the world before you could be the very medicine we all need and the secret message of these times.

You got this!


My book collection for Early Childhood Waldorf Homeschooling

Ok if you have gotten this far, your are still interested in the world wide web of Waldorf Homeschooling here are some great ( & some free) resources to support your journey.  I have collected stacks of books over the years but the internet has sooo much out there start there.

Waldorf Inspirations has lots of free materials grade by grade

Waldorfish is a beautiful resource for all the artistic things you wish you could do but simply don’t have the skills, time, etc… Great way to set your child up with art lessons from home.

Waldorf Inspired Learning is a great place for you to get support, training and guidance on the journey ahead.

A Waldorf Journey is a great resource for teachers and home schoolers alike and she sells individual blocks so you don’t have to buy the whole curriculum.  Great podcasts and lots of free stuff!

Lavender’s Blue has a lot of free resources to get you started and a great recorded song library to learn songs.

Then there is Oak Meadow– a classic curriculum and distance learning school that has a beautiful fusion curriculum that weaves Waldorf and worldly studies.

There is Earth Schooling, Christoperus, Live Education and frankly so many more I can’t even go on.  There are podcasts, webinars and online trainings… So very much!

Wild Explorers is kinda like boys scouts on line in that you can earn badges for nature studies.  My kids are excited!

And when the constant questions of the world keep nagging you, Ask Doug is what we do.( Warning this is NOT Waldorf, but videos of a guy named Doug answering kids questions about the world)

And when you are just too tired to bring forth wisdom, don’t forget about Sparkle Stories, audio stories for kids that have tons of free stories, a great blog with activities, crafts and more!

And lastly you can learn so, so, so much from this seasoned homeschool mother Carrie on a Parenting Passageway Blog.


That’s all for now cause I don’t want you to stay up till midnight researching, sleep is the number one priority for successful homeschooling!

PS if you are doing Early Childhood at home check out my post from March for support and ideas more oriented towards little ones and soon there will be more to come on that.

Lady Spring & The Easter Bunny

Bunny and silkEaster morning, the sun still rises over the mountains and the tulips still burst forth.  Prayers of hope, health and new life are stronger today than any Easter I can remember.  This morning my children get my attention, marveling in the miracle of colored eggs and a few new books.  They are the hope for the world and today their joy brings me deep into my own, being grateful for just having them, and just to be with them is a gift many won’t be able to enjoy today.   If you are blessed to be with someone you love today, here is a little story of humility, authenticity and sharing our unique gifts with the world you could share with those you love.


Here is Suzanne DownsTale of Lady Spring and the Easter Rabbit-

Lady Spring and the Easter Rabbit

Once upon a time, Lady Spring awoke from her long Winter’s nap. Just like last year, and all the years that came before, Father Sun gently tapped her on the shoulder and shone his warm light down on her to wake her.

Lady Spring dressed in her finest gown of sky blue, with a silken ribbon in her hair, and she set out into the meadow to greet all of the animals and flowers. As she walked, she listened and looked for the for the sounds and sights of Spring—children playing in the sunshine, families sowing seeds in their gardens, people celebrating the return of the season … but she saw no one. The doors were all closed, windows shuttered, and the yards and fields lay empty. Where were all the people?

A robin lit on a nearby branch to share his song with Lady Spring. She listened kindly and then asked, “Where are all the dear people of the village? Do they not know that Spring has arrived?” The robin tweeted a reply, for he had flown here and there and had picked up this news in the village: “The Winter was so very long … and so very cold, and everyone has been tucked in tightly into their houses for so long—I don’t think they know that Spring has arrived!”

IMG_1637Lady Spring had an idea. She called out to all the animals of the forest, and they gathered in the meadow. She told them all that the good people of the village needed their help. Someone must share the news that Spring was here. Who would do it?

All of the animals began to shout “Send me, send me!” and Lady Spring announced: “We shall have a race. The animal that can run all the way around the world and return here first will be our messenger.” The animals agreed.

The wild stag went first. “I am the fleetest afoot. Surely I will win the race.” And off he went. But when he got to the rocky hills, he started leaping from rock to rock and ended up playing there for many hours and forgot all about the race.

Next was the salmon. “I can dart through the water and swim with the tides. Surely I shall win the race.” The salmon began swimming as fast as she could, but soon the sunbeams dancing on the stream caught her eye, and she thought the sparkles of light were little flies. For the rest of the day she leaped here and there trying to catch them.

Then the hawk called, “I am the swiftest of all the creatures who circle the earth. Surely I will win the race.” He shot like an arrow into the sky and soared above the meadow, until down in a field, he spotted a mouse. He swooped straight down to get it and forgot all about the race.

The little rabbit went quietly on his way. He never looked left or right, but gazed straight ahead and held steadfastly to his course. Just as the sun was setting, he returned to Lady Spring in the meadow, completing his circle of the earth.

Lady Spring gave thanks to the humble rabbit and asked him to visit the village that night, sharing news of the arrival of Spring. The little bunny asked, “How will they know it’s true?” Lady Spring thought for a moment and then took a small egg from her pouch. She gently gave it to the rabbit and said, “Show them this egg. Just as the golden yolk shines inside the hard shell of the egg, so the light of the sun shines again and warms the earth in Springtime, so that new life can begin.”

The little bunny set out on his way with joy, and every year he journeys from house to house, village to village, bringing beautiful eggs to all the families and sharing the news that Spring has returned.

Stars moon and sun, now my story is done.


*** Even though we can’t all be together on this beautiful morning, don’t forget to take in the miracles that surround you where you are and share that wonder with the children.***

Bloom where you are planted!- Garden Resource Roundup


Reading about gardening is almost as good as doing it!! I am so sorry the library is closed and I can’t lend you from my wonderful garden book collection… but if you are gonna buy a gardening book this season, may it be one of these beauties.. don’t ask me which one cause I love all of them.. these are just the favorites off my shelf… I only read gardening books and children’s books!!

Our new “Stay at home” mandate means lots of homework for of us…school work, house work, personal work……this weekend I am taking a deep pause and letting gardening be my only work…. the mess inside will wait!!
I have opened up shop for Facetime Garden Consulting and am so happy to give you site specific, personal advice to get you growing.  I can help you no matter where you live, because growing is universal!

IMG_3382I also want to recommend some local resources for garden beds, soil, plants and row cover because now that I have told you all exactly what to do, I know you are all desperate to get your hands dirty, after all, they have never been this clean!!!

LOCAL GARDEN RESOURCE ROUNDUP– ****UPDATE**** Nurseries have been deemed non- Essential business


Today we ventured to Country Farm Supply in Espanola ….they sell straw bales, baby chicks (new batch  arriving Thursday) and seeds in bulk!! Who sells seeds in bulk anymore??? They are stocked and open for business… but always good to call first     (505) 753-4500.

Plants of the Southwest– Super therapeutic strolling in the shady river side groove while gathering new fruit trees, berries, natives herbs and vegetables!  They sell row cover by the yard ( new shipment comes in Thursday).  They do have reduced hours to Tuesday- Saturday 8:30-5pm and please know there is only two hard working employees so be patient and kind to them!***Sadly PSW had to close for the month of April, but do check back, those plants are still growing!!****

Agua Fria Nursery Are open and you are free to wander outside as long as you please, only a few customers at a time inside to pay, so please be patient.  They sell Cocopeat         (due to arrive back in stock next week) which I recommend to everyone for making their own potting mix.  They also sell row cover, vegetable starts, amendments and tons of amazing perennials.***All Nurseries are closes until further notice***

Grow y’own raised beds is still in business and busier than ever!  They build and install garden raised garden beds.  There is even a video of how to build a bed that you can be inspired by to build your own!

Paynes Soil Yard is selling compost and soil and delivering even just one yard at a time! The have compost, garden soil and lots of mulches.  1-(505)-424-0336

Reunity Resources – Not only do they now offer curbside kitchen scrap compost pick up, but they will deliver garden compost to you as well!  You can pick up compost too Mon- Fri 8-4pm and Saturday 9-12. Such an amazing resource in the heart of Santa Fe!!

The Feed Bin Sells straw bales, baby chicks ( new shipment every Thursday) and tons of animal supplies.

Paynes Nursery Sells of course plants, seeds, bagged soil, trees, among a million other things!***All Nurseries are closes until further notice***

Santa Fe Farmers Market– Is open and taking great safety precautions!  These hard working farmers have planned and planted and have to work no matter what, cause farming is NOT canceled!! Please support our local farmers if you can safely!!

*****I encourage you to call ahead and get straight on hours and supplies and curbside pick up options first.  These business are so happy to stay open but they need to stay safe too!!******

Amanda Bramble or Amerpersand Learning Center will be hosting her annual fund raising plant sale at the Mind Shaft tavern in Madrid on April 19th… there will be pre- order curbside pick up available.

Also these amazing women at Soul Fire Farm are doing Friday ask a farmer sessions for growing support on Zoom.

Small online Seed Shops

Seeds Savers Exchange– Temporarily closed to catch up on orders

Native Seed Search– Closed till April 17th 2020

Johnny’s Seeds– Not taking new orders till April 6th

Floret Flowers

High Mowing Seeds– Open but 2-3 weeks for shipping most seeds

Baker Creek Seeds

Botancial Interests– Open but higher than usual shipping time

Edible Santa Fe Also put together a list of local food business who are open and need your business Here


If I left anyone out, please comment below and I will add them to the list!


I pulled this book of the shelf today which feature my beloved local poets Kyce Bello and Cynthia West

Just reading the back cover was medicine for my soul. B9F036A5-CABE-487E-B677-315E8FFE8574

Bless the land & bless your hands that they can work in wellness and humble gratitude to bring life, health and goodness to the world!

Please contact me directly for Garden Consultations and Support at

Homeward bound-Resources for Creating Resilience & Rhythm at home

C3A3488F-29A4-47F8-A508-2E7333C38745So the world is upside down- we are social distancing- but what are we getting closer to??  Our families, our values, our fears, our confusion…..and as all this uncertainty boils up in us, here we are, at home with our kids, keeping the home fires burning…….how is it going so far?

Over here it’s Saturday morning, I am deeply grateful everyone is healthy & home and that we even have a home!  The groceries are stocked up and I am able to enjoy this cup of coffee and exhale in our isolation where many, many people can not.  The kids are happy, enjoying the freedom that most Saturday mornings bring: ideas stored up from the week, connections with big brother who the littles have been missing all week, beautiful weather, freedom… busy little bees.

This will wear off by lunch time and by 1pm I will be back to refereeing petty fuses between my three kids… and then Monday morning will come… and Tuesday and Wednesday– for weeks!!

Even I, who homeschools and homesteads every single day, pandemic or not, am a bit scared!  There is so much to be scared about in the world right now……but it seems enough people are talking about the world at large that I will leave issues of health, money, safety, security, in equity, politics, etc.. to the experts.  I found this post helpful directly related to children during this time.

What I want to offer is resources, inspirations and resilience for families who are now home for weeks at a time with their kids.  Having kids is a joy, being at home with them is wonderful… but for weeks on end while there is stress in the air of what feels like a world gone mad, whats on my mind is how are we not going to?

D9608503-7A89-486E-B0DD-4AEE29AEE086Though I am no expert, I do have some practice at this stay at home with kids stuff, so just want to offer a few humble resources on how to stay calm and carry on in our homes with our families right now.  Our children feel everything, we are the air they breath, and though they may seem totally unaffected right now, they are sacred too.  It’s an appropriate response, but what can we do as parents to slow down, calm down and kneel and touch the ground?

855E107B-11BE-4D1C-81D6-C29708935BB7Inner Work is real work

The first level is within ourselves- What Inner Practices do we have, or gonna create to stay centered calm, kind and well?

Breathing– The lungs of the world need health right now so even a few deeps breaths will help. I run, so the deep rhythm of deep breaths is actually what carries me along and this morning I was just feeling the health of my lungs and trying to send that out into the lungs of the world.  Every little hope helps!

Praying– No I am not religious, but yes I do pray.  I pray when I run, I pray when I garden and I pray when I sing.  It doesn’t look like me kneeling by my bedside with hands clasped, it is me actively, humbly engaging my spirit with the spirits all around me.  You have your way, I am sure! and if not… I say start with a song.

Singing-Not everyone is into just randomly belting out improve like I am, but singing is how people all over the world, since the beginning of time pray.  Lift every voice to sing till earth and heaven ring!  Your voice matters, it sends a vibration, that your children are wired to resonate with.  Try it…sing your favorite song to your kids at the top of your lungs, they will think it is hilarious!  Here is a song that is my prayer lately. And if you simply can’t sing, being sung to will soothe your soul, listen to this salve for the soul or just turn on some tunes and let it carry you!

Move the body, quiet the mind– Meditate, yoga, run, exercise–Whatever your practice, DO NOT STOP this week.  If you don’t have a practice, find one!  You will need it now more than ever. A dear friend said to me this morning, ” Isolation is a ceremony with yourself”…. in our cases with our families, if we saw it that way would it help?

Sleep– I am serious!  You know you don’t get enough of it, ever!! and this moment will never arise again- so go ahead, go to sleep early every night this week. Your body, mind and immune system will thank you!

27C7481D-8F6C-4F15-AD9D-9DB87B95EB6A“Overwhelmed is Underprepared”

A wise woman once told me, though during times like these, it is simply unavoidable! But how can we prepare so we are not spun out completely? Many of you are way more organized and have high level leadership positions, so this is small potatoes to you… but for the harried mom like me;

Evaluate– What MUST get done, what can we let go of right now for the time being? We can’t do it all – at least not all at once.  Give yourself a break and just do what you can and must!  The rest can wait. Simplifying may make life easier, if only for this week!  NPR has an article about getting set up to work from home here.  If it work is what MUST get done, all the other house work MUST go! Remember- you can never recreate school, work, the world at home so please don’t try!! .  You have to just be home, and bring a flow and form that works in that environment and create a current that can carry you there.

Set Intentions– If we used this moment to reset- what would we let go of?  What would we invite more of into our lives and families? What is it we are really valuing, modeling and holding sacred right now?  How does that express itself in our actions? It can be as simple as “I want my children to feel safe, so I will hold them more this week”

Some might go even further with older children and use this time to create a list of family values, so we know who we are and what we stand for with so much uncertainty around.  Here is a nice list to inspire.

Plan- There is nothing so luxurious as a Sunday morning at home with nothing to do and no where to be.  Enjoy it and soak it in!!  And then plan for Monday! School and work give form and rhythm & routine to our life that invisibly carry us.  We are already totally in our daily groove, now we just need to re-adjust little. One of the hardest things about being a stay at home mom is entropy.  You never feel like you are getting anywhere… cause you are not going anywhere!  It can make you go postal if you don’t watch out!  For all of us our, even if we are at home everyday with baby, our rhythms have been severely interupted these day!  We are not only feeling the chaos but the disruption of our routines!

Here is a great article I share in my Parent & Child classes about Rhythm in the Home- A great article by a Kinder teacher in New Zealand- Helle Heckman from Waldorf Today. Here is my daily rhythm, that is designed for people who can’t read yet… I am no artist but my kids love it! Another nice rhythm chart can be found on the Lifeways blog here.


This is our days of the week rhythm chart– I am not an amazing artist but my kids like the symbols ( cause they can’t read) Notice everything is in pencil, cause as we know things change!!


Daily Rhythm

“Daily, weekly and seasonal rhythms are the anchors that provide security and happiness to your child. With a strong daily rhythm a child knows what to expect and what is expected of him. With rhythm, simple daily activities (chores, self-care, mealtimes) become habits instead of arguments. If children have regular external rhythms, internal rhythms will develop- the child’s metabolism will be more predictable, hunger will occur at the same time each day and sleepiness will creep in at the usual bedtime.  In the early years especially, daily rhythms should revolve around food, sleep and unstructured play both indoors and outdoors. These rhythms are upheld with repetitive rituals such as mealtime blessings or a lullaby before bed.”– From the “Return to Rhythm Guide” available for free from Whole Family Rhythms Blog


Once you know what MUST be done in the weeks ahead you can create a daily rhythm framework for your family.  Chances are you already have a daily rhythm:

Ex:Breakfast, school, work, Aikido, grocery shop, home, dinner, bed, sleep, repeat…

Once you write it down you will have a few time blocks to fill… like the 40 hours a week of school that will not be happening! In school everything is already blocked out and your children know the rhythm in their bodies and need that same rhythm at home to carry them happily through the day.

Now is a great chance to set the stage and expectations ( if you children can talk, if not this happens inside of you)

This morning I told my kids, ” So we will be home together for this week, what is important to you that happens?”

The eight year old said “Experiments???!!!”( I have no idea where he got that idea but cool)- I ordered a soil test cause all I want to do is work in my garden,  so we are both happy!!31B29CE4-BD92-4EF1-832B-6C863071567C

The three year old said- “polish my new boots”- so in the moment, love that guy!  It will change every ten minutes but he gets an idea and is so happy to accomplish things.

The five year old said “go on adventures with my brothers”- Which means river romps, nature walks and going just beyond our normal reach- Great!  I am in!

So I look at our normal home day rhythm and mentally map how today will flow.  I won’t change anything, but tuck some microscope time into the rest time block and a trip to the river in our evening outdoor time block.  This will look very similar to to the block schedule they use in schools or time blocking.  Nothing new for the more organized in the bunch, but for those of us who would never bother write down the flow of a day at home, let me just say, it is helpful if only to have something to look back on to show you, you did in fact do something, or lots of things successfully in a day!


In Anthroposophy the days of the week are aligned with planets, grains, colors, gestures, stones, organs, plants, angels and so much more it will take me a lifetime to understand!


My Daily Rhythm for Days at Home

6:00-7am –Wake and Snuggle– I do have the luxury most days of waking slowly and snuggling my littlest ones.  It is soul food for us both and honestly just as important to our well being as eating.  It is getting briefer as they get older and I know that morning snuggles too shall pass, so I indulge in them as much as I can now. Now that my biggest isn’t rushing off to school he joins us and we read books in bed.  This is when my eldest reads to all of us to, that way reading practice is accomplished before even getting out of bed!  Big Win! My kids do get themselves dressed so once we snuggle everyone is up and at it, even if clothes go on backwards! I throw a load of laundry in almost every day- that way it doesn’t get away from me!

43AAA02A-D7F7-4A29-835F-596A4EC22D0D7-8 am- Eat and Run-Often it is eat and run out the door to work & school, but on my home days, which is now everyday, I go running.  I find that if I start the day with a run I feel generous because my cup is filled, my mind is clear and my body is at ease. ( I do have a partner who is present so I can do this and I realize that is a huge gift and luxury and I am grateful when he is here!! Now that he is home as on weekends, he feeds the kids breakfast and I am out the door with a cup of coffee and my running shoes on). While I run, at home my eldest goes for a bike ride up and down the lane and gets some energy out.  Once he gets outside, he stays and his little brother often follows.  They have to feed their animals and they always find something to do out there.  My daughter often stays in a draws and play with her babies while the morning buzz happens.

D40F0497-01EC-4E17-9F3A-9ED27B55A5F89-10am-Morning Activities -Once I am fed, and showered and dressed, which is do pretty quickly,  I then I give to myself children.  Mornings are great for focused activities:  We do painting, Finger knitting, saltdough, beeswax modeling, baking, color stories, drawing, online art lessons, word practice, letter stories, flute practice, circle time, penpals, this week we have started up again with writing letters to our cousins and friends who live far away….so many things in this hour the kids are so nourished and honestly kinda done with me… so off they go to be free, while I am onto my thing and if they want they join me.  After we have done focused learning, and clean it up, I set them free…and I am free.  If I really give to my children they often go off and play happily for a while!  I haven’t always done this- I really would prefer to get a load of laundry in, kitchen cleaned, dinner prepped and then begin, and when my kids were a little bit younger in the toddler years this was our whole morning; changing diapers, washing diapers, cleaning, cooking.  The work of the home was our curriculum and the little ones just helped out and followed me around…..some days we still flow like this with the littlest while the bigger ones have things they want to do…

***But I just want to say, in these days to come especially- starting with an activities may be your best bet.  You know when you scramble around hastily trying to get everything set so you can be centered while the volume in the room slowly goes up…. you know that tone when you kids are just not harmonizing and you know you need to lean in, but oh how you want to lean out!! Yeah, lean in, you can fix that funk with your presence and attention, fill them up and set the whole day straight. 59DE1D12-98B2-43DD-843E-0CD5DA6F960C

11-12 Free time/ chores– The kids play outside and I care for the greenhouse and animals and get lunch and dinner prepped.  Often I have a helper who wants to be near mommy so I have a little helper.

1pm –Food– Today they came in hungry so I put on a Sparkle Story for them and they listened quietly while I finished lunch.  Then I feed them and we reconnect.  With the little ones it is often hard to get them to eat… So I read or tell them stories during lunch  I pause at every page or pauseable moment and say “Take a bite” and we all pause for a bite, including me.  My kids are so into stories this works like a charm, but I realize they have to be a certain age where stories are captivating enough to be motivating, usually not till age 3.5 does this really work!

1-2pm – Clean up -After eating we all clean and tidy (yes if children are home making messes they will be expected to clean them up with help– just like at school! We clean as we go throughout the day and we don’t start anything new until the old is all put away, otherwise I would go totally mad!) I sing to them the tidy song, some of you know from my Parent & Child Classes, and then it is rest time…

2pm Rest Time-We all get in my bed, we read one book for each child and then to the  potty and off to rest nests.  No buts about it.  It’s how it goes.  I am the loving authority of my home and I go this! ( and so do you) If they do this already at school, do everyone a favor and try to stay with it at home, they know the drill and holding that rhythm for them is a gift.    This has taken years of practice, so don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t go very well at first… but teachers are trained in this very fine art of settling themselves and bringing in their energy to create the calm, sleepy vibe.  It is truly a superpower when you can get a whole room of wild youngans to sleep, but really the only secret is total commitment and practice.

2-4pm I Work /They Rest-I realize that once a child hits 6 actually sleeping at rest time is highly unlikely but handwork, reading, or even listening to a story is restful and important to disengage from each other.  Being together all the time is taxing on all of us, especially me so I really hold strong to my time.  I write, work on the computer, phone calls, whatever work I simply can’t do with them around…( this does not include, gardening, dishes, cooking, cleaning)


4pm Wake & Tea time!  -When they awake they find me always in the same sunny spot, at my computer in the living room.  They curl up on the couch besides me and sometimes even fall back to sleep!! They wait for the others to wake up and enjoy being quietly by my side alone! We have mint, lemon balm, rose hip tea (all home grown) and snack- usually we eat graham crackers & apple slices with cinnamon– they are special but not too junky!  My kids know this as a treat and because they know they will always get them at tea time everyday so that knowing it is consistent this eliminates a lot if issues around treats, because we have a time of day we get treats they usually don’t ask for them other times of the day.

5-6pm Dinner prep- I actually hate being inside from 4-6pm right now with all this glorious evening light, the golden hour.  My kitchen is dark and I just can’t take being inside.  It is my favorite time of day and I like to work in my garden.  If I am organized enough I had dinner already prepped and on its way.  Sometimes I ask my husband to do dinner cause I just don’t like to – I grow it you cook it!! When I simply must make dinner and my children are done outside I put on a Sparkle Story, Free audible story, a Circle Round Story or a Mystery Doug video for them to watch.  * (We don’t have a TV and my kids don’t really have any screen time except for Mystery Doug (science videos) and some special movie moments.  I find listening to stories is so relaxing for them and still stimulates their imaginations and gets me the break I need.)

If we are lucky enough to be outside till 6pm I say this verse to call them all back in and we head in for supper. *****As you may know about me and many Early Childhood teachers, we sing and say lots of verses….These things mark transitions for children and are consistent and rhythmic and easy on the ears… and feel so much better coming out of our mouths than yelling  “come on children let’s go!”  When we feel good we do good, and the children just come along for the ride. Here’s a wonderful inspiration to start singing more!

Evening is coming

The sun sinks to rest

The birds are all flying straight home to their nests

Caw caw said the crow, as she flies overhead (in the sky)

come little children we are going to bed (time to go inside)

Here comes the pony.

His work is all done,

Down through the meadow

he takes a good run.

up go his heels,

and down goes his head.( feet)

It’s time little children

we’re going to bed.( eat)

Adapted From Seven Times the Sun by Shea Darian

54B41A64-592A-47A4-822E-C4CC10FE49706:30pm- Dinner: Wash hands, all help set the table, gather at the table, light candles, say verses and eat!! We often go around and share a rose and a thorn from the day to practice listening and speaking to others instead of the “mommy mommy mommy listen to me” choir!

ED4AF2EF-80D8-4173-8873-B041806EC32E7:30pm- Clean up -Clear table, bed get in bath (only twice a week unless we have a very dirty day), get in PJ’s, Brush teeth and hair, off to bed.

8pm- Bed-My children all share a room so one parent lays in bed and reads until they are all there and slowly they all drift off to sleep….. including me is asleep!!! ( often I get up and work till 11pm but last night I passed out and slept the whole night through, tonight I got big plans on doing the same!)

Setting a daily rhythm for your weeks ahead may help you and yours weather the storm together.  It might even make you calmer, closer and more connected.  There is so much more to say about how to be in quarantine with your family, but my time is up!!  I did find a great post here that has tons more ideas that I found inspiring.  Also if you really need to just listen instead of read all this, here is a great podcast on Daily Rhythm at home that I enjoyed, and hey if homeschooling sticks here is a great resource for starting a homeschool rhythm.  Hoping for the best, good luck in there!

UPDATE: There are tons of Homeschool resources out there that are giving away free curriculum right now. Here is your chance to try them out!


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